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How to help loved ones in the hospital
Pray in solitude at home. Pray with your family, friends, small groups. Place patient and their
family on a prayer list at your church and other churches. Leave a prayer voicemails
or your friend. Send them an email prayer. Quote Scripture. Let them know you and others
are praying for them. If you get them live, pray with them and you do all the praying.
They're exhausted. If they don’t want prayer, pray for them alone.
Be a sounding board. Don't talk about yourself or your problems. If you have gone through
something similar it's ok to share but keep it brief and positive. Don't tell them you understand
or you know how they feel, because you don't. Instead mention how this must be very hard
and ask how you can help. Give a few concrete examples of help so they don't have to think.
Set up a meal plan for the family through email, www.evite.com, or www.mealtrain.com.
Place a cooler on the family’s porch where people can easily drop off food. The family may not be home
a lot. Bring food to the hospital giving the family a break from cafeteria food, fast food, or skipped meals.
Provide child care at the hospital in designated play area (so children are close to parents),
in your home or the family’s home. Set up carpooling for children and adults. Offer to set up play dates,
take children to birthday parties and other events around the holidays to keep normalcy for children.
Offer to purchase Christmas gifts for the children in the family.
Set up regular home management like snow shoveling, lawn mowing, raking leaves,
house cleaning, laundry, dry cleaning, oil changes, car washes, and decorating the home for the holidays.
Be a liaison between the patient and family and the outside world. Setting up an update
and communication system is vital but may take away precious time from the family or patient
on a daily basis. There are special health sites such as www.caringbridge.org, www.carepages.com
but Facebook and regular email work too.
Send cards, flowers, gift cards, stuffed animals, books, toys directly to the hospital room or
the family’s home to brighten up their environment. Call the hospital in advance to ask what is
allowed in patient’s room.
Please be mindful of the hospital environment, don't just show up at the hospital or ask to visit unless offered.
There are lots of germs and it's an intense environment where babies, children, adults die. The daily
stress level is high so extra people may just add to burden. The ICU does not allow visitors unless
special circumstances .